Child abuse

January 19th, 2007 at 11:46 · Filed Under At Home, Critiques, Days in My Life, Dietrich, Dmitry, Dominik, Family, General

Actually, I did not plan to write about this child abuse thing. It happened to my kids and I would not want to leave any marks on them. So, I decided not to write about it and hopefully to let this incident died. But I read about this maid thing in Suzette’s blog and I think I shall speak up and warn other parents about Indonesian maid.

Last August when my wife gave birth to Dominik, my mom sent her maid to our home to help. She helped to wash and cook. We did not want her to even lay a finger on our kids. But my 2nd son, Dietrich, liked her very much and liked to hug her. We left it to be but we tried to prevent him from doing so as much as we could.

Then I had retianl detachment in September. Had a surgery and needed for follow-up examination in KL. My wife would drive me to KL for the examination. One day in October, my wife sent me to the clinic in KL without taking any kids along (we left them at home together with my MIL and the maid), we discovered a small bruise on my eldest son left inner arm. We began to be suspicious about her and my wife asked Dmitry who did this. He told my wife that the maid “pinch” her! My wife asked him 5 times and he answered 5 times the same answers! Then my wife and I checked on Dietrich and found a bruise on his right waist. Dietrich did not know to express yet. Then we decided to file a police report and sent her to the police station for investigation. And we had to sent our kids to General Hospital for examination! After the police investigation, we deported her back to Indonesia.

Why did she pinch the kids? We trained our kids to do household chores. It appeared that Dmitry wanted to help her to clean the dining table. Apparently, the maid did not want him to do that so they were snatching the cleaning cloth. And the bitch pinched him. As for the case of Dietrich, we did not know what happened because he did not know how to express himself yet.

Of course not all Indonesian maids are bad. My mom had one maid earlier and she was very hardworking and quick in her work. We, particularly my sister Angie, really missed her. Angie missed her so much even until the last days before her departure. We tried to contact her in Indonesia but failed.

Before this happened, my wife and I had talked about installing CCTV at home. But before we could finalize the decision, this unpleasant thing had already happened. It was too late to install and we would never need to install one because my mom had decided not to employ any maid anymore.

If you want to install one, then do it! Don’t think about the cost or its worthiness. You never know what these fanatic Indonesian maids can do (but not all of them are like this).

Luckily, the incident did not leave any permanent psychological effect on our kids.

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4 Responses to “Child abuse”

Suzette on January 25th, 2007 16:47 1

Hi! There. Sorry now only got time to visit your blog. Thank God that you spotted this bruises thingy early. My aunt’s Philipino maid actually abused her son (my cousin) many years ago. The issue was, my aunt doesn’t bath her kids, and only discovered this after the maid has left, and when she had to bath her kids herself, she discovered the bruises - all covered inside the clothes!

That’s why, I still insist that I bath my kids and change their clothes. My maid doesn’t handle my children. I only worried she add things to my drinking water - which can be easily done.

You are absolutely right about installing CCTV!
Adrian Hoe on January 30th, 2007 11:17 2

Sorry. I just found your comment in spam bin.

There are a number of IP based or networked CCTV camera. It does not require a video cards. If your home has a network (I think you should have) you can either installed a wired or wireless network CCTV cameras. With very little configuration, you can monitor your home while you are away as long as you can find an Internet connection. I think it is cheaper and without much cabling particularly the wireless one.

Axis Communications and D-Link have some.
allthingspurple on July 24th, 2008 16:35 3

I have many unpleasant experiences with maids too. I think none can top my horrors cos most of the maids are reject maids on temporary basis till new ones arrived, or are replacement maids (whom I also suspect are reject maids)

One tried to smuggle my then 8months old baby out of a motherhood exhibition, then later strike a deal with a indon contractor to sell baby, and later run away. we didnt do anything about it cos the agent is a family friend who has no clue this will happen.

Another pinch and clip cloth pegs on my toddler whenever she spied neighbouring maids coming out so that baby would cling to me.

8 years ago, my first maid starve my then 12 month old firstborn. She would toddle to me with happy tears in her eyes asking for “nai nai”. Maid starve her so she would cry herself to sleep till 6pm. My first maid, how naive i was, i even let it go, so happy was i that i found out in time and so eager i was to get that maid out ofmy house. That’s why now, no more maids. so exhausting,the ratio of dishonest maids against good reliable ones.
Adrian Hoe on July 25th, 2008 9:01 4

That was the last maid my mom hired. No more maid. Also, don’t want them to take the hard currency back to their home country.

Can’t do work properly and lazy. Want to eat good food and more. Some more our government set higher minimum wages for these lazy people. They don’t deserve higher wages.

No all are bad and lazy. Those work diligently of course deserve better wages.